I asked the elders the following;

In life right now I'm faced with a million questions and struggle with which road to take. Do I follow my own dream, a big one, which may or may not come true and potentially hurt another who doesn't share that dream with me or not follow it and cause myself heartache? In your experience what is the single biggest regret you have?
Thank you, I really value your thoughts and experience.

Zoë x

I had a response from Vera, thank you so much for taking the time to reply. It gave me the strength to stay true to me.

Vera's response is below;

Dear Zoe,

I'm inclined to tell you to follow your dream. It may sound selfish but is there a compromise?
How much hurt will be caused to the other person?

If it's something you really want to do you will go through life regretting that you didn't take the plunge
and maybe resenting the other person and that would not be good.
As for me, I have many regrets but I'm too old to do anything about it.
Think about the consequences of not taking this opportunity.
Hope this helps.
Good Luck in all you decide to do.


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