I sent this question :
As I am getting married next year, my question is "how do you make marriage work ?"
And I got this wonderful answer from Joyce :
"I should say, thinking about it as you are, and of course 'give and take'.
How about looking at things from the opposite point of view?
Keeping your mouth shut instead of saying something you might regret.
It is so easy to just say the wrong thing and it escalates.
Communicate! Something on your mind...mention it. It is really absolutely necessary to talk things over.
It seems to me that you will be able to take it in your stride!
Thank you so much for taking the time to answer me, I'm sure this advice will prove very useful in the future (starting now !).